When applying for Disability Living Allowance (DLA) for your autistic or SEND child, every word you write counts. The way you describe your child’s needs can make the difference between getting the right level of support—or being awarded a lower rate than they deserve.
We speak to thousands of parents, and this comes up again and again: “I filled in the form honestly, but I still got turned down.” What many don’t realise is that even honest answers can be misinterpreted if the wording isn’t clear, specific, and framed correctly.
Here are 5 essential tips to help make your application as strong and accurate as possible:
1. Say “They cannot do this without help.”
Instead of saying “they struggle,” be clear that your child cannot complete certain tasks without support. The word “struggle” implies they might manage on their own, which could reduce your award.
2. Say “Most days are difficult. Some are harder.”
Avoid saying “good and bad days.” This kind of language downplays the daily reality and makes it seem like they’re fine half the time. Consistency matters.
3. Say “Support is needed every time.”
Don’t say “they occasionally need help.” Assessors need to understand the frequency and reliability of the support required. Occasional help won’t warrant higher levels of care.
4. Always include the diagnosis.
If your child has autism, PDA, ADHD, or another condition, say it clearly. Don’t assume the assessor will know why support is needed. The cause is just as important as the effect.
5. Don’t forget safety risks.
Use phrases like: “Without support, they would be at risk of harm.” Leaving out these risks can significantly reduce what your child is entitled to. Be honest and specific.
Why this matters:
The DLA form is long and emotionally draining. It can feel like you’re being forced to list everything that’s hard about your child’s life, and that’s tough. But this isn’t about labelling your child negatively—it’s about making sure their real needs are recognised, valued, and supported.
If you get stuck, don’t worry. You’re not alone.
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Save this page. Share it. Come back to it. Because the next time you fill in a DLA form, you’ll want to get it right.
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